According to Webster comparison is the act or process of comparing. I wanted to take this one step deeper… what is the definition of compare? 1. To represent as similar 2. To examine the character or qualities of especially in order to discover resemblances or differences 3. To view in relation to. So, you might say why is comparison a thief? Let me show you how…
When we compare ourselves to others, we forfeit our uniqueness and our uniqueness is what makes us who we are. Please take a moment and think about it there has never been a person with your exact makeup as you, and there will never be. You are one of a kind! Not one person is the same as the other as we all possess our unique talents, abilities and personality and when we want to be anyone other than ourselves, it’s like we check out of our own lives to go and live someone else’s.
No one is perfect! Would you agree? To examine the character or qualities in ourselves or others if not done for the sole purpose of growth and admiration can be toxic to our self-esteem and relationships. Comparison can breed pride with an “I’m better than you” attitude or “I’m not as good as so and so” mindset, either way, we lose!
We were never meant to compete with each other but rather complement each other. The way to a healthy mind, self-esteem and relationships is to:
- Work on being the best you! Take the time to develop your self
- Admire the qualities of those around you and enjoy them
- Be grateful for the wonderful person that you are
- Listen to your self-talk (your inner voice)
- Be kind to yourself
- Learn from others
In closing, there is no condemnation if you find yourself in the comparison game. My intention is to empower you to be the best version of you and take your life and relationships to the next level, and comparison is a thief of that. I would love to hear from you and your experience with comparison. I wish you a great week and until next time. C