Have Your Cake and Eat It Too

You can have your cake and eat it too!

This episode is not about eating cake in the literal form, but it’s about enjoying what you have and not feeling bad about it! It’s about the freedom to choose and choose well. It’s about finding a place for both the responsibilities that come with life and making time for what makes us feel alive. As the saying goes “too much of one thing is good for nothing”. Do you believe this to be true?

Considering life is long, and life is short! How do we live for today and invest in our future? Sometimes we can fall into the trap of seeing life through the all or nothing lens and while some areas in life may be absolutes, but what about the grey areas? A place to start could be asking yourself what’s important to you? What are some things in life that are non-negotiable? Our purpose and values can help us define this and could be the very foundation from where we make our decisions.

Did you know that there are over 250 different varieties of cake? Like there are different types of cake, we are also unique in our ways, and so is our sweet spot. Our sweet spot is the dance between work and play. When we look to others to determine this, perhaps it can set us up to miss this concept, and it can steal the very experience of finding joy. Have you found your sweet spot?

What are the things that bring you joy? Over the years I have sought to discover a range of things that do just that, and I would like to share some of these with you in the hopes that it will serve as an example and that you will find your sweet spot or maybe add to what you are already doing.  I have created an at-home facial experience it includes beautiful fluffy towels, a designated area where I sit and go through the process, I like to put on some music or a podcast, and if I feel like it, I will light a candle. Another thing I like to do is to make a meal from scratch. For example, it can be so easy just to go out and buy ready-made pizza dough. Still, for me, there is something about engaging in the process from start to finish, getting flour all over my apron, sipping on a beverage of choice and enjoying the finished product with loved ones. While this is not something that I do all the time and let’s make something straight, I thoroughly appreciate meal prep and having food in my freezer ready to warm up. An indicator of when I am out of balance is when I don’t have “time” to do the things that bring me joy because I am too busy!

Before we part ways, I would like to introduce to you, “the sweetness of doing nothing!” I came across the Italian saying “Dolce far Niente” which means just that. If you have seen Eat, Pray, Love, you may remember the scene where this idea is introduced. So often we can forget just to be. The idea is not about being lazy but instead finding pleasure from savouring a moment and enjoying it. For Italians, this concept is a part of everyday life, and it can look like spending time with friends, watching the sunset, taking a stroll you get the gist. What does it look like to have your cake and eat it too? Until next time take care and enjoy!